{"id":165,"date":"2010-02-09T16:07:37","date_gmt":"2010-02-09T21:07:37","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/ebay-bride.perception.net\/?p=165"},"modified":"2010-09-24T15:13:58","modified_gmt":"2010-09-24T19:13:58","slug":"dispelling-the-%e2%80%9ctacky%e2%80%9d-myth","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/ebay-bride.perception.net\/?p=165","title":{"rendered":"Dispelling the \u201cTacky\u201d Myth"},"content":{"rendered":"

Isn\u2019t shopping online \u00e0 la eBay<\/a>, Craigslist<\/a> or Kijiji<\/a> a bit cheap? If I buy things at a discount\/dollar\/department store, won\u2019t people consider it (*gasp*) tacky?<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

 
\nOffbeat Bride posted a great article<\/a> on this very topic. The short and simple answer is: for pretty much anything you can insert into that sentence, the answer is YES.
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Tacky<\/strong>
\nPronunciation: \\tak-ee\\
\nFunction: adjective, tack-i-er, tack-i-est.
\nEtymology: Americanism; appar. identical with earlier tack(e)y small horse, pony, poor farmer; of obscure orig.
\nDate: 1880-85
\n1. not tasteful or fashionable; dowdy.
\n2. shabby in appearance; shoddy: a tacky, jerry-built housing development.
\n3. crass; cheaply vulgar; tasteless; crude.
\n4. gaudy; flashy; showy.<\/span><\/p>\n

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What most people fail to realize is that you can spend all the money in the world on a wedding… and it can still be the tackiest event ever staged. Allow me to rest my case with the following link<\/a>.<\/p>\n

 
\nMoney and taste do not always go hand in hand. The thing is \u2013 the T word gets bandied around far too often, when what\u2019s really meant (for the most part… and, clearly, there WILL be exceptions) is clich\u00e9d.
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\nWell, of COURSE your wedding is going to be clich\u00e9d. You\u2019re planning to stand in a big white (or pink, or red, or whatever colour suits your fancy) dress in front of all your friends and family, surrounded by flowers & tulle, fairy lights and glitter (see? The road to Tacky can often be quite short<\/em>), to promise to devote the rest of your life to another human being in a ceremony that\u2019s already been done millions of times by millions of people. So originality isn\u2019t really something that\u2019s easy to come by. And why should you kill yourself trying to have the most unique wedding of all time. There\u2019s nothing wrong with taking the basics and adding a few of your own flourishes. And the fact is: it will be the only wedding ever to star You & Your Leading Man\/Woman\u2026 that alone will make your wedding an original. And that, in and of itself, precludes it from being clich\u00e9d and\/or tacky. Hopefully.
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\nBut there are no rules that say you MUST buy your wedding favours\/ decorations \/ shoes \/ jewelry (this really is a list that can continue on for days<\/em>) at Le Fancy Pants Bridal Boutique Of Wedding Wankery. You\u2019re welcome to, if you actually enjoy the idea of paying WAY more than you need to on items you\u2019re going to use once.
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\nIt\u2019s a wedding. It\u2019s a ritual. Rituals by their very nature are done to death (yes, I do realize that can be taken quite literally<\/em>). Something that\u2019s done to death becomes a clich\u00e9… and from clich\u00e9 it\u2019s a quick jaunt to tacky. Much like beauty: tacky really is in the eye of the beholder.
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\nAs far as I\u2019m concerned, the only truly heinous and unwavering moments deserving of the Tacky Scarlet Letter are the following: Including registry information in an invitation; Requesting, outright, to be given cash gifts only; and Dollar Dances (or any variation on that theme).
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\nEverything beyond that is open for interpretation. Because, although, an idea itself might sound tacky \u2013 it\u2019s the execution of said idea that really counts. And there is a point where the whole \u201cis it tacky\u201d question really becomes a case of good \u2018ol unadulterated snobbery.
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\nSo if shopping on eBay or at your local Dollar Store (hey \u2013 they have some incredibly pretty trinkets for decorating… on which I\u2019ll elaborate at another time<\/em>) is what makes you (and, more importantly, your budget) comfortable, \u00a0I say have at it. Chances are, your guests will be none the wiser \u2013 unless you\u2019ve got a foghorn in place of a voice box, like me, and like to share everything… with everyone. (What can I say? I have no shame. I\u2019ve made my peace.<\/em>)
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\nAnd if anyone is tactless enough to have a problem with where you\u2019ve purchased your table decorations or how much you\u2019ve paid for your favours & invitations\u2026 screw \u2018em. Seriously \u2013 do you honestly have time to waste caring about what someone with their head that<\/strong> far up their own arse really thinks? They likely spent 4 times as much as you did for their own wedding… and didn\u2019t have nearly as much fun.
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\n[Note: the author wishes to let it be known that she fully expects aspects of her own wedding to be brandished with the Tacky wand. She also wishes to let it be known that she\u2019s totally cool with that.]<\/em>
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